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I was born to be Southerner. Born and raised in South Africa, now living in Tennessee USA, and I fit right in. I moved here to build a life with my now ex-husband. Needless to say that I never planned to have an ex-husband as part of my vocabulary , but then so is marrying someone who was from a different continent, leaving my home country and moving to the USA. 

I thought moving here was traumatic and hard, but divorce has been one of those hard, weird and life changing things I've experienced. It is brutal. As much as that is true, choosing to walk away from that was also one of the bravest decisions I have ever made.

When they say that it takes a village to raise a child for me, nothing can be truer. I am a child of a village who finds so much joy in building community and I believe nothing brings people together more than food and sports.


I don't know anything about sports, but I do know a thing or two about cooking and community.  I love to cook for my family, but it is much more fun if the village shares that meal, so I love to host. Even though I plan my weekly meals, somehow Chick-Fil-A still finds a way onto our dinner table.

I have been a girlie-girl all my life. I love basically everything pretty. I also find cleaning and organizing therapeutic. I love decorating and re-decorating my life. Online shopping is the best thing that's happened to humankind.

I am a binge-watcher of all True Crime, Design Channels, HGTV, Discovery Plus, Food Network and  Bravo...Yesss please...please bring the wine. I love making my home my oasis, peaceful, organized, and functional. Ok! sometimes it is an organized mess, but organized is the keyword.  Journaling has helped me and probably saved my life from repeating the same mistakes. It helps me keep track of my growth. 

I am a mom to two amazing babies, Gabe and Izzy. They are professional posers because their mama will not stop taking pictures.  Seriously, check my Instagram.

Thanks for joining me on this journey. Please reach out to me. I would like to get to know you.


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God is still writing my story, but here is a little bit about myself. I was born and raised in South Africa, I now live in Nashville TN,US.

I was that girl that got in trouble for speaking in class, it was kind of annoying for some, but I never failed a subject because I took notes religiously too. At the age of 13, one of my teachers who paid attention enough, told me I would make a great Journalist.

It made sense, so I pursued it, but I was honestly too soft for the media industry. After working for a major daily newspaper and lifestyle magazine, I found myself so anxious about these negative stories that I wrote and read about. So I ditched that for corporate.

 It was then that I felt God was leading me to write for a purpose. So a few years ago I started the blog sharing my life, my faith and everything in between. It is my way of putting out more positivity, love and hope to the world. 

Please lower your expectations, I am not great at editing my own work, but writing comes naturally to me, I consider it a gift. I also speak 5 languages, and English is not my first language.

This blog is a reflection of me, it is not perfect and it will always be the work in progress, but I write with love,  outmost care and authenticity.

I am a mother of two babies and a pup, a lover and a warrior-princess.

Thanks for reading.


Nontobeko Cox

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which led to...

This blog has been alive for over 14 years ( formerly known as " Distinction). I wish I can say that it is easy to stick to this writing.


I have always written from my heart and experiences. But sometimes it is hard to write about your experiences while you are working through them.


Life is always happening, so when life happens I have sometimes failed to pause and do what I know I should be doing - writing. 

What I want for you and any reader that comes to this website is to experience me being authentic about real life struggles and also share my victories along the way.


But to be transparent is hard sometimes, I feel like for most of my life I've always wanted to wait till the victory comes before I can share the struggles.


But as I grow older, I realize there is more power in sharing what you are going through and have others share and witness you evolve and become what and who God created you to be.

I want to be authentic in this blog, even when I am afraid because I know there is power in that. There is power in knowing that you are not alone in what you are experiencing and learning how others navigate through hardships and remain in faith.


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